There is no denying that planning a wedding is stressful. However, no amount of stress should add up to becoming the dreaded “bridezilla” figure. After planning wedding after wedding, there are certain tips we like to share with our Boulder Country Club brides, and now you, on how to reduce your stress level and not fall victim to wedding planning pressures.
First, avoid solely talking about your wedding with friends. Keep in mind that your wedding isn’t the only thing happening in the world. If the subject comes up, stick to one or two sentences rather than babbling on for 20 minutes. Your friends will appreciate that you still have an interest in their lives, resulting in friendship post wedding.
Secondly, so often we see brides that get so caught up in the planning details that they forget the reason they are even going through with all this, their fiancée. This sets a bad precedent for marriage. While your wedding is one (very important) day, your fiancée is forever. You must make time everyday for one another, no matter how busy you might be. Trust us, just five minutes of your time after a stress filled day will not be unappreciated.
Third, avoid becoming a diva. While your maid of honor and other bridesmaids are honored to have their roles, don’t make them regret having accepted that position. There’s a fine line between handing out reasonable tasks and asking your friends to do things that make them resent you. We suggest making a list of everything that needs to be done and dividing up tasks based on each person’s strengths. Additionally, make sure to still leave time for non wedding related activities!
Fourth, make a budget and stick to it! It is a salesperson’s job to try and convince you to go with the pricier option. However, make choices that are within your budget and don’t feel shy about using the word “no”. Remember, everything adds up quickly due to large number of items that are needed to put on a wedding.
Fifth, take care of yourself. While crash dieting and working out might be effective, it will alter your personality for the worse. If you plan on loosing weight before the big day, do it over a long period of time, maybe even consulting a nutritionist and trainer along the way. Depriving yourself of calories makes you grouchy, ultimately leading to you snapping about something or at someone for a silly reason.
Sixth, appreciate those around you. Over the engagement period you will likely receive ample advice. Rather than brushing it off, take time to listen to everyone. Your family and friends are likely nothing but excited for you and therefore are doing what they can to help. Thus, never forget that what occurs is done out of love, not people trying to annoy you.
Seventh, on the big day and even just in general, expect the unexpected. Prior to the day of the wedding, go over every detail, making sure you are in touch with all of your vendors. At this point, you have done what you can and the rest will fall into place as it should. You have to adopt the mentality of not stressing the small stuff. On your wedding day, everything is out of your control so rather than obsessing on one thing that went wrong, focus on everything else. This day is all about you and your husband and nothing will change that.
Lastly, don’t compete with other weddings or brides. There’s no sense in breaking your budget just because you want yours to be the best.
While the period of being engaged can be stressful, you have to remember to take time out for yourself. Your whole life shouldn’t change just because you have a wedding to plan. Give yourself ample time to plan and never forget that you put yourself in this situation. You wanted to be here because you want to spend the rest of your life with your soon to be husband.